A romance novel is the world’s most perfect “how to” book. 
Romance novelists learn:
- how to construct an argument to achieve a productive outcome
(not many writers I know argue for the sake of arguing – there must be a purpose for the argument to move the relationship forward)
- how to forgive
(after that constructive argument, the characters must truly forgive one another to move the relationship forward)
- how to face obstacles
(sometimes the characters must be independent and sometimes they must learn that life’s challenges don’t always need to be faced alone)
- how to repair relationships
(not just between two people but relationships with the world around them – in order to survive in a romance novel, the novelist must develop a deep understanding of how their characters relate to each other and their environment)
- how to develop empathy for everyone
(romance writers battle the entire spectrum of emotions through their characters)
- how to keep working toward that happily ever after
(for the book to truly be called a romance, the HEA must exist – and romance novelists create entire worlds where the HEA is not only possible, it is expected)
